Better Conflict Solutions
Providing divorce mediation, family mediation, employment mediation, mediation in a variety of contexts. Helping to resolve church conflict, workplace conflict, family conflict, business conflict, marriage conflict, and relationship conflict, both personal and professional. Also providing parenting time supervision. Serving Florida, Treasure Coast, Ft. Pierce, Jensen Beach, Vero Beach, Port St. Lucie, Stuart, Jupiter, West Palm Beach, 19th Circuit, Martin County, St. Lucie County.
“Please make my parents stop fighting.” One child reportedly told his mother, "if I were dead then maybe you and dad would stop fighting over me."
Kids need to feel safe in knowing that they are free to love and spend time with both parents. They should not be held hostage to their parent’s conflict.
What are Family Court Judges saying?
Many judges encourage mediation and sometimes require it in disputes that involve children.
“Family court is ‘a terrible place’ for parents to use to resolve their custody and access issues.”
“The whole justice system, including the family court system, is adversarial and is based on a win-lose mentality.
But in family court there’s no winning, there’s only different degrees of losing, and the biggest losers are the children.”
This adversarial approach is “designed to make war not peace” says Brownstone, and more often than not parents come out of the family court system “more angry with each other and more unhappy than they were when they started the court case.”
~ Family Court Judge, Toronto
What Are The Kids Saying?
Things to think about…
Approximately one million kids a year are affected by divorce
More and more, people including family court judges and divorce attorneys are recommending mediation to divorcing couples.
Psychology Research on Children of Divorce
There are two very strong factors that influence children's post-divorce adjustment - they are exposure to parental conflict and quality of parenting.
Research tells us that kids coming from high conflict families do not fare well. They are more likely to experience mental health problems.
Chief Justice Burger weighs in on litigation...
"Traditional litigation is a mistake that must be corrected... For some disputes, trials will be the only means, but for many claims trials by adversarial contest must in time go the way of the ancient trial by battle and blood.
Our system is too costly, too painful, too destructive, too inefficient for really civilized people."
Chief Justice Warren E. Burger, (Ret.) U.S. Supreme Court
Mediation Vs. Courtroom Battle
Rather than a courtroom battle with opposing attorneys, couples sit down with a skilled mediator and create their own divorce agreement.
After all, who is better qualified to decide issues like your parenting schedule, and how your assets and debts will be divided?
How does mediation work?
Divorce Mediation is typically completed in 2 to 4 sessions - or 6 to 9 hours. Parties may split the Mediator's fees how ever they choose.
Of course people and circumstances are different so you may or may not fall within the typical timeframe.
There is also a 1 to 2 hour charge for the Mediator, outside session to complete your Memorandum of Understanding (outline of your agreement).
Parties are encouraged to consult with other professionals (attorney, financial planner, counselor) throughout the process and/or review their Agreement after completion.
Parties may then choose to:
Don't let fear keep you from trying mediation
I urge you to not act hastily in relinquishing power over your situation and handing it over to the adversarial court system.
Few if any are ever pleased with the judge’s decisions.
Most people feel devastated that the process did not go as they expected and sadly they’ve spent tens of thousands of dollars and fueled considerable hostility and bitterness toward one another.
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Offices in Stuart and Ft. Pierce